Home' LOTL : November 2004 Contents "THE BELLS ARE RINGING FOR ME AND
MY GAL." WELL, NOT THIS MONTH BUT
HEY, IF YOU CAN'T GET MARRIED, GET
COMMITTED, SAYS REBECCA KAGAN.
FICTION 1 White Lace and Promises Peggy Herring 2 Wombat
Strategy Claire McNab 3 Hot Bothered Karen Tulchinsky 4 Lucky
Stiff Elizabeth Sims 5 Rebellion Jay Taverner NON-FICTION
1 Memoirs of Moving On Dorothy McRae-McMahon 2 Beautiful
Shadow Andrew Wilson 3 Box Lunch Diana Cage 4 Not Happy
John Margo Kingston 5 How it Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian
Parent Judith Snow
COURTESY OF THE FEMINIST BOOKSHOP
All the wrong places
Once Upon a Dyke
How it feels to have a gay or
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Same-Sex Mar riage: The Personal & The Political by Kathleen
Lahey & Kevin Anderson ($24.95). Some adorable lesbian and
gay couples from Canada share their personal stories of meeting,
coming out, and wanting to marry. One of the lesbians, Lin, is
from Australia, but chooses to live in Amsterdam with her
Canadian partner, where their marriage is recognised. The authors
reveal well-documented evidence of recognition of same-sex
relationships and bonding back over many centuries. As well as
this historical context, Lahey and Anderson include behind the
scenes details on how the legal battle was won in Canada. An
inspiration for advocates of same-sex marriage down under.
If you are planning a ceremony of your own, look no further
than Ceremonies Of The Heart: Celebrating Lesbian Unions
edited by Becky Butler ($37.95). Twenty or more lesbian
couples share their ideas for rituals to celebrate their
commitment. Some took the full bridal route with white gowns,
veils and three-tiered wedding cakes, while others opted for a
simple ceremony on a deserted beach. Traditional religious
ceremonies appealed to some, while others made up their own
words of love and commitment. Gorgeous photos of all the
happy couples. This lovely book also includes a detailed history
of lesbian partnerships. Just goes to show we have been doing it
for a long, long time.
For the academically and legally inclined, Same-Sex
Mar riage: The Moral and Legal Debate ($32.95) edited by
Robert Baird and Stuart Rosenblum looks at diverse arguments
from politicians, journalists, lawyers, judges, and activists.
Published in 1997, this would be a good read for anyone
needing to immerse themselves in the recent history of the push
for same-sex marriage. One for the archives.
Back to DOING IT in style ... The Essential Guide To
Lesbian & Gay Weddings by Tess Ayers & Paul Brown
($37.95) is the ultimate wedding planner for queer couples,
with practical advice on invitations, cakes, outfits, music,
bouquets, and wedding etiquette! Advice is also given on how
to be legal when it's not legal, how to have an environmentally-
friendly ceremony, and how to make sure you choose a venue
that is not run by homophobes. Ouch! This book is
recommended by famous lesbians such as Martine Navratilova,
Melissa Etheridge and Julie Cypher.
I haven't heard of it as yet, but pretty soon we will probably
see a book called Divorce For Same-Sex Couples. I have actually
read that the first Canadian same-sex divorce has just come
before the courts. Well, equal rights means equal rights!
Up to the minute info on the marriage situation is contained
in Why You Should Give A Damn About Gay Mar riage by
Davina Kotulski ($26.95). US Kotulski is an advocate for same-
sex marriage and spells out the importance of legal rights in a
commonsense and witty way. She lists 20 things you can do to
make a difference if you feel as strongly about this issue as she
does. She also addresses the issue for transgender and intersex
people. All her experience relates to the US, but in general much
will apply to the situation here.
And finally, for planning rituals have a look at Rituals for
Life, Love & Loss by Dorothy McRae McMahon ($24.95) and
Lesbian Rites: Symbolic Acts & The Power Of Community
edited by Ramona Oswald ($29.95).
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