Home' LOTL : June 2004 Contents to leave. In contrast, the message from ACON is delivered to
the lesbian and gay community as a whole. It aims to build
awareness of domestic violence as an issue, and an
understanding that violence is destructive to everyone including
friends and family who witness the effects of the violence. The
ACON campaign encourages a shift in community values,
stressing love and respect in relationships for singles and couples,
and an appreciation of healthy, long-term couplings.
The Deli Resource Centre pioneered groups for lesbian
domestic violence victims and focuses on developing positive
relationship skills. "If you fear that you are in a violent
relationship, the most empowering action you can take is to talk
about it. Call a friend, or contact the Domestic Violence Crisis
Line, for confidential, non-judgmental help in clarifying what is
going on," says Rachel Atkins, Deli manager.
Jude Ir win stresses that to make sense of lesbian domestic
violence we must think about the unique characteristics of each
situation. Violence that er upts only when the relationship is
ending has different implications to violence threaded in to the
fabric of the relationship from the start. Feminist understanding
of domestic violence has centered on a clear distinction
between victim and perpetrator, but when both women are
violent, the categories bleed in to each other, challenging
professionals to find new ways of thinking.
There are other blurry lines. Most couples must negotiate a
middle ground between asserting needs in a relationship versus
being controlling; between healthy expression of anger and
abuse. Sometimes the answers are clear. Even if you have never
assaulted your partner, it is a crime to threaten her or to give
her reason to fear for her safety. She can call the Police Gay and
Lesbian Liaison Officer or the Domestic Violence Officer at her
local police station, and get an Apprehended Violence Order
(AVO) against you. But is it okay to yell at your partner? Or to
slam a door? What about expecting her to spend the weekends
with you and not with her friends? Or setting limits on how
often her parents come over?
Bird urges the lesbian community address these dilemmas.
"I pray that one day every lesbian can be in relationship without
living in fear. We can all participate in creating that dream. We
must call each other to account. We must have chats in our
kitchens and our lounge rooms. Let's make films and music
about what constitutes healthy lesbian relationships, until every
lesbian knows the difference between violence and love."
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The Lesbian and Gay Anti-Violence Project Report-Line (02) 9206
2116 or 1800 063 060. The AVP Line can take reports of DV and
make referrals to other services but is not a crisis line.
NSW Domestic Violence 24 hour Crisis Line 1800 656 463
The Deli Resource Centre (02) 9667 4664
NSW Refuge, Referral and Resource Centre (02) 9698 9777
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