Home' LOTL : June 2004 Contents LESBIANBESTSELLERS
FICTION 1 Lighthousekeeping Jeanette Winterson 2 Death By
Death Claire McNab 3 The Exhibition Marg Girdwood
4 One Degree Of Separation Karin Kallmaker 5 Dreams Found
Lyn Denison NON-FICTION 1 True Secrets Of Lesbian Desire
Renate Stendhal 2 On Our Backs Diana Cage, Ed 3 Woman To
Woman Carol Booth 4 Highsmith Marijane Meaker 5 Queer Eye
For The Straight Guy Fab Five
COURTESY OF THE FEMINIST BOOKSHOP
Ibriefly mentioned True Secrets Of Lesbian Desire by Renate
Stendhal ($31.95) last month. The subtitle is "Keeping Sex
Alive in Long-Term Relationships" and Renate Stendhal writes
as a therapist as well as from her own experiences. In Paris
in the seventies as a lesbian feminist she was committed to
non-monogamy, determined to make it work, and constantly
disappointed and heart-broken after many affairs. Years
later she fell in love, seriously, and moved to California. Her
new lover set some boundaries, and together they
discovered the joys of a relationship that is still happy and
sexually alive after sixteen years. This is a lovely and
inspiring book, which dispels the depressing certainty of
Through her work as a therapist with three lesbian couples
who generously share their process, Stendhal advocates a new
level of honesty about lovemaking between lesbian partners. She
also breaks down some myths that are limiting for lesbians. Good
sex, she says, is like dancing well together: it needs to be learned.
A book full of good sense and gentle wisdom.
Moving on to a love story with a difference, have a look at
Minus One: A Twelve Step Journey by Bridget Bufford ($34.95).
As we know from seeing them on a float at Mardi Gras, many of
our local lesbians are dealing with their addictions to alcohol and
drugs. This novel is a well-written and entertaining journey
through addiction and recovery with Terry, a young woman who
is alternately loveable and maddening. A sizzling lesbian love story
is combined with rock bottom gutter level addiction, and
eventually the hope and self-respect of sobriety. Suspense, humour
and in-your-face honesty make this quality fiction and a great read.
Another book I loved recently is Jo's Girls edited by
Christian McEwen ($40.65), collection of fiction and memoir,
inspired by the portrayal of Jo in Louisa May Alcott's Little
Women. For lesbians too young to have read this beloved old
classic, seek it out in a library, or even watch the video to get an
idea of Jo. The second sister in a family of girls, and the rebel of
the family, she was a tomboy who did everything wrong. She
was often in trouble, loved wearing pants, had her hair cropped
short, and was good mates with the boy next door. With no
father, she took on the role of the man in the family. Sounds like
a dyke doesn't she? Well, sadly she wasn't, and later in life (in
the next book) married an elderly German professor.
But to many young closeted dykes at the time Jo was a
role model. Jo's Girls introduces more tomboys in fiction and
literature. Many well known writers have contributed:
Colette, Simone De Beauvoir, Leslie Feinberg, Rose
Tremain, Virginia Woolf and more. Young women have
always suffered the consequences of refusing to fit the mould
and these delightful stories describe what it really meant to
be a tomboy from the 19thC to the present day.
And finally what a delight to mention a new volume of poetry
Cafe Boogie by local lesbian Jenni Nixon ($20). You may have
heard Jenni, a stunning performance poet, at the Mardi Gras
Poetry Reading put on by The Feminist Bookshop last February.
In her vibrant style she records a life lived in and around a
bohemian and lesbian/gay culture and community. Go anywhere
to hear her, but in the meantime, support the star ving poet and
buy and enjoy her book!
LESBIAN BED DEATH IS ALWAYS A HOT
TOPIC, AND A NEW HELPFUL BOOK IS
SURE TO BECOME AN INSTANT BEST
SELLER. BY REBECCA KAGAN.
THROUGH HER WORK AS A THERAPIST WITH THREE
LESBIAN COUPLES WHO GENEROUSLY SHARE
THEIR PROCESS, STENDHAL ADVOCATES A NEW
LEVEL OF HONESTY ABOUT LOVEMAKING
BETWEEN LESBIAN PARTNERS.
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