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Long term relationships matter to you. You value stability, home life and
possibly picket fences. You are not alone. About 51 per cent of more than
20,000 couples pick Bette or Tina as their favorite couple. As a mixed race
high achiever, Bette also represents a determined struggle to make a place
for ourselves with family and at work. She wants to belong, but without
sacrificing her own identity. It’s not easy – Bette suffers – but she never
gives up. Probably you don’t either.
Tina represents the archetypal traditional female in all its positive and
negative forms. She wants kids and a home life, and never lacks for a
suitor. Sometimes she is submissive, wishy-washy and passive aggressive.
If you loathe her, perhaps you loathe that aspect of yourself.
You are in the minority of lesbians who wouldn’t mind a relationship with
Jenny or Moira and other characters who are definitely not the traditional
lesbian-next- door. But that’s OK because you identify with the perimeter
not only of society in general, but of the lesbian community itself. You lead
an exciting, if sometimes chaotic life.
But maybe, like Max, the shadow-side of your rejection of society’s
categories is a longing to fit in and be accepted at the centre. Like The
L Word characters you love, you may be resolving issues of loss, anger,
exclusion or abuse.
Many lesbian viewers want Jenny dead, and Moira is the most disliked
character. Maybe it is prejudice, but how these characters deal with angst
rubs many lesbians the wrong way. Jenny is given to flamboyant displays
and Max can be a resentful victim. But you don’t mind, because the
characters are expressing something that matters to them.
Sex and sensuality matter. Whether you are sexually repressed or a
twice-a-day girl, the issue can make or break your relationships. Sex or
its avoidance is possibly a way of creating or avoiding intimacy for you. If
you forget to have sex for months on end, you need a girl like Shane or
Carmen to keep lovemaking on the front-burner. If, like Shane, you have
trouble keeping sexual boundaries, you need faith that you can find a part
of yourself you can trust. And a girl who believes in you.
Friendship, justice and personal integrity are core values for you. Perhaps
you have been disappointed in love, or have trouble finding a girlfriend.
Or maybe you are at a time in your life when strengthening your individual
identity is crucial. You are probably a decent human being and a great
asset to your friendship circle.
The questions and the answers didn’t fit you? No problem. You are an
eclectic lesbian! You like ‘em in all shapes and sizes. You identify with
a broad range of issues, and don’t like being put into little boxes. We
wouldn’t want it any other way.
DID YOU GET YOUR L PLATES?
Photos: Courtesy Showtime
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