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When Vicki Iddles and Caroline Giggins
met on their rst date in New York, they
both knew "this was it". Five years later,
they celebrated their love with a very traditional
wedding in the ailand resort town of Khao Lak.
It's a classic, beautiful love story. Girl meets girl,
they fall in love, get hitched and plan for the future.
Except without legal recognition of their union.
Melbournian Vicki and Caroline, from Ireland,
met through Pink Sofa while living in e Big Apple
and freely admit that, while cheesy, their rst meeting
was the clincher.
"Yes, as sappy as it sounds we both felt it and took
a huge chance by telling one another," said Caroline.
" ere was an instant connection and bond that I had
never experienced before and I knew that I had found
my soulmate for life."
Vicki says it was like the earth had shi ed.
"She made the rst move and shazam! at was
that," she says. "I whispered in her ear about four
hours into the date that she was the one and tough
luck, but she was stuck with me."
e gregarious pair moved from the US to Ireland
before settling in Melbourne. For them, marriage has
always been on the table.
"We spoke about it from when we rst met," says
Vicki. "Inseparable and desperate to spend all of our
days together forever... But Caroline decided rst.
She sneakily arranged for our beautiful friend Jorge
in New York to make the engagement ring. We got
engaged 10 months a er we rst met, on top of the
Ei el Tower - very romantic!"
Both girls love being surrounded by people, their
wine spritzers and a rocking good party, and while
initially planning an intimate a air, dismissed the idea
of a sedate commitment ceremony or a council reg-
istration. Instead, they spent a year organising a truly
magni cent event.
A full bridal party preceded the brides, dressed in
tailor made gold gowns and escorted by their fathers,
down the 'aisle' to the beachside ser vice where their
mothers participated in a sand ceremony and the
girls declared their hand-written vows. Once the of-
cial photographer had nished his duties, the 80
guests who had travelled from Australia, Ireland, the
US and Denmark were treated to a magni cent feast
and a party that continued long a er the bar sta had
packed up and gone to bed.
Caroline says there was never any doubt it would
be a very traditional occasion.
"As an Irish Catholic the ceremony and the word-
ing was very important," she said. " e celebrant's
words, the readings, the vows and the sand ceremony
were all tailored to re ect our lives and vocalised what
we wanted to convey on the day.
"I feel that just because the church doesn't recog-
nise our union it doesn't mean that we have to omit
spirituality from the ser vice."
Vicki says they don't see their relationship as di er-
ent to a heterosexual couple.
"We value our commitment to each other and
wanted to share that in a traditional way. It's a big oc-
casion, just because we don't have the paper or more
importantly the rights to show it, we have the memo-
ry of the greatest day in our life, and that is signi cant
enough in our hearts."
Amidst all the love, laughter and celebration, it
was not forgotten that Vicki and Caroline's wedding
would not be recognised in Australia. In her speech,
Cathy Anderson explores a life of wedded bliss.
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