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With Siri May
The festive season is officially here and naturally at the
ACON Lesbian Health Project we're getting ready to cel-
ebrate -- sex that is.
As the weather warms up and you start to venture out more,
meet new people, swap stories over cocktails and then maybe swap
something a little more later on, it's worth a moment of your time
to think about you and sex.
So we've put together some helpful holiday hints for your read-
First of all, at ACON we work with something called 'sex posi-
tivity'. This means we recognise the importance of celebrating the
consensual sex that women can have with each other. We also talk
about sex in a positive way. We think sex positivity makes sexual
health education more effective, and more than that, it combats
homophobia in our society that tells us our sex is somehow shame-
ful or less than.
So let's talk about our sex. Many people hold the view that sex
should be something that just comes naturally to all of us. Howev-
er, the truth is we all learn how to have sex - from experience, read-
ing or talking about it. All of us can afford to learn more about how
to make sex more pleasurable for both ourselves and our partners.
Getting better at sex involves learning about the human anatomy.
Why do certain things feel pleasurable while others don't? Why
do some people like one thing while others hate it? Getting better
at sex means having an open mind, curiosity, and an understanding
that we're all different in our desires and preferences.
A good starting point is to ask yourself some questions. What
do you like? What don't you like? How can you tell your partner/s
how you feel? When was the last time you had an STI test? What
does safe sex mean to you?
Why are these questions important?
Knowing what you like and dislike before getting busy with some
lucky lady or ladies makes communicating easier which can make
for a far more enjoyable experience overall. It's also especially
important to keep check of your own boundaries. While it's never
too late to say 'no' or change your mind, it's helpful to think about
what you don't like before you're in the throes of passion.
Want to know more? Well you're in for a treat because this De-
cember ACON and MaXXX Black Adult Fun are partnering up
again to bring you one of our ever popular workshops for women:
After Dark - Lesbian Sex and Sexuality Uncovered.
Expect VIP treatment with a holiday theme in the glamorous
MaXXX Black venue in Newtown. We have free cupcakes, cham-
pagne, rope bondage demonstrations, an interactive sexual health
and sex positivity workshop, gift bags, and a complimentary cock-
tail at The Bank Hotel afterwards. Expect answers to those burning
questions, tips and techniques on how to stay safe, and of course
a guided tour of the store with staff on hand to help you choose
titillating gifts for your special someone (and that someone could
Hope to see you there and happy holidays from all of us at
Siri May is the project coordinator of ACON's Lesbian and Same-Sex
Attracted Women's Health Project
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