Home' LOTL : December 2006 Contents 8
You loved the travel issue, you even loved LOTL,
but you still had more to say about femmes!
A beautiful Travel issue! I have been around the
world twice and have found that it’s not so much
your sexuality that affects how you are treated as
it is how you behave as a person, especially in the
smaller places and more exotic locales. Ironically,
it’s usually the places that pride themselves on
hospitality that let you down: B&Bs, spa resorts
and big hotels. Some hospitality providers try to
overcompensate. Others can’t look you in the eye.
But it’s more often than not the other guests that
are the problem. Because you can’t control the
perspectives and prejudices of the outside world it
pays to seek out LGBT-friendly travel businesses.
It’s not that I want special treatment: I’m a firm
believer in “when in Rome”. But if an establishment
claims to want to make your stay comfortable they
should look at catering to gays and lesbians better.
And the days of His & Hers bathrobes are over. I
recently returned from a trip to America and can
recommend Kimpton Hotels. They have the right
Vanessa, Melbourne VIC.
Re: News “Perth Victory” by Tessa Millesse in
Perth. Tessa states that Louise Pratt will become
the first out lesbian to hold a seat in the Australian
Senate. Correction: We currently have Senator Penny
Wong Labor Senator for South Australia who is
an out lesbian. Fantastic however to have another
lesbian on line to win a Senate seat. The more the
Mandy Sharplin, Canberra ACT.
I was appalled to read that Steve Bracks would
not rule out giving Family First preferences. Are
you doing anything to dissuade him from doing
so? I believe we need to let the ALP know that we
cannot give credence or support to homophobes. I
am contacting as many people and organisations as
I can think of but I am only one person. We should
all write or email the ALP and let them know how
we feel. Write to: Locked Bag 3240 Melbourne VIC
3001or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Liz Munro, via email.
LEZ BE FRIENDS
We want to thank LOTL for introducing us to two
lovely new women friends. We put an advert in
LOTL a few months ago asking for new friends.
We only got two women replying but the two who
replied to us are lovely. We have all met twice for
lunch and have begun a friendship for life, we hope.
Thank you LOTL. Your adverts have made four new
women very happy. Don’t stop with
your free adverts. You are doing
a fantastic job. Thanks also to all
the volunteers and staff who help
to make LOTL a great women’s
magazine. LOTL also introduced
my partner and me to each other
across the world 10 years ago. We
are still happy to this day.
Jill and Christiane, via email.
I want to thank you for the
article based around the Femme
Mystique. I am a femme, and
have felt for the past six years of
being an out lesbian I have had
to constantly prove myself not
only to the gay community but
also prove to the heterosexual
community that I am gay. We
don’t have any easier life just
based on the fact that we look
like we’re straight... We have
double the people we feel that
we have to prove ourselves to.
My girlfriend, who is quite
butch, loves the fact that I
am girly and wouldn’t have
it any other way. And to the
people who think that there are
butch-femme relationships to
imitate that of the heterosexual
couple, that’s just not the case.
It’s all about diversity, and
acceptance. Just as there are
black, white, Middle Eastern, Indian and
Asian people in this world, there is also more than
just one look for a lesbian. If a ‘butcher’ lesbian
feels they get discriminated against or stared at or
whatever for the way they look maybe more thought
should go into how a “femme” should feel with
double the struggle against the straight community
who thinks she is straight, and then the gay
community who also think she’s straight. Honestly
it’s just not that easy! The first time I went to an all
girl club, I got told that “this place isn’t for people
like you”. I was shocked and disgusted and more
than anything confused! Long hair, short hair, make
up, bare skin. We’re all the same! Ash, via email.
The whole femme/butch discussion really has
created a stir! In response to Danny, Brisbane
(“Femme Mirage”, November Letters) we are all in
straight bars – where at the majority of the time are
made to feel welcome! Why are all lesbian nights
named so tastefully? ‘Bitch’ and ‘Moist’ are not
places that particularly
appeal to me! In a city like Sydney you would
expect that there would be a lesbian club that is just
that – a good gay girl club – open to all – no labels
or instructions that you have to dress up in leathers
and feathers for example! My favorite is being
turned away from a gay club because I have high
heels on! Can you imagine if a bouncer on the door
of a straight bar told a group of gays to “go away”
and “did you realise that this is a straight bar”?
Emma, Sydney NSW.
In the travel section of our November issue (Vol.
17 No.11) the incorrect pull-quote was printed with
Delia Allen’s article “Desert Hearts”. LOTL regrets
HAVE YOUR SAY
Feel like mouthing off? Email lotl@lotl.
com by December 8. Letters must be 150
words or less.
When you go on
important is it for
you to travel with,
stay with, or meet
other lesbians? 9%
Not: I go
away to get
away from the
of paying peak
travel rates to
mix with hets and
�������� ���� �����
����������� ������� ��������
��� �� ��������
���� ������ �� ����� ���
���� �� ������ ����� ������
Links Archive November 2006 January 2007 Navigation Previous Page Next Page