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I found “Maybe Not Baby” (May LOTL)
quite refreshing. I am one of those lesbians
who wish to procreate, and it’s tempting
to assume that everyone else does too! I
do enjoy hearing different perspectives on
issues, especially those ones so close to
my heart. I am glad we are different! I
appreciated the reminder that the ability
to make choices about having children is
a privilege that not all lesbians enjoy. I
often complain about the discrimination
I experience as a lesbian woman, but I
realized that being white, middle-class, and
educated allows me to enjoy more privilege
and choice than many women.
Sarah Poole, via email.
I was pleased to see LOTL reporting on
the persistence of unsavoury issues at the
heart of the GLBT identity (May News).
In spite of increased visibility, and myriad
community groups ‘fighting for the cause’
and supporting dysfunctional individuals,
we have a lot of ugliness in our collective
closet. I am now approaching middle
age. I have wrestled with drinking and
substance abuse in one form or another
my entire life. Three out of five of my
longterm relationships have involved abuse
or domestic violence of some sort, and for a
long time I accepted this without question,
probably because on some level I didn’t
think I was worthy of any other treatment.
Your news article made my stomach churn.
Many years ago a girlfriend tied me to a
kitchen chair and held her service revolver
to my head for several hours. All I can
say, in spite of my revulsion, is well done
LOTL: I usually flick right past LOTL’s
news because it is the same old dry and
boring community broadcasting but this hit
the spot, so to speak. Name supplied.
A SLAP IN THE FACE
On behalf of ACON, I would like to express
our disappointment with the pictures LOTL
chose to accompany the story on same sex
domestic violence in your May issue. The
story concerned the Private Lives survey,
which found that a high percentage of
respondents have been victims of same sex
domestic violence, and noted the expansion
of ACON’s Housing Service to support
members of our community who are at
risk of homelessness due to violence. Same
sex domestic violence is a real and serious
problem that should not be trivialised by
LOTL’s chosen images of stylised glamour
girls holding guns to each other ’s heads.
ACON takes very seriously issues about
violence in our community. We would be
very disturbed if anyone thought ACON
endorsed the use of gun-toting models to
illustrate stories on support services for
members of our community dealing with
violent or abusive relationships. I hope
that LOTL will consider more appropriate
graphics when reporting on domestic
violence in the future.
Kate Connors Vice President ACON.
I refer to last month’s Letter to the Editor
from Sarah (“Adults Only”). In my original
letter published in the March Edition, I
questioned statements attributed to Rachel
Kramer Bussell about how hitting someone
makes her feel powerful, in charge and
excited. I questioned this and certainly
implicated a link with childhood abuse.
Sarah in her letter claimed that I had
tried to explain homosexuality as a result
of childhood abuse. In fact I made no
statements about anybody’s sexuality at
all. Sarah made this statement in an effort
to discredit my point of view. I would
never make such a simplistic statement.
An individual’s sexual orientation develops
over time and is of course influenced by
our sexual experiences. Perhaps Sarah will
try again to explain how a person can
overcome inhibitions to hit another person
both deliberately and with intent to cause
pain, even if the other person gives their so
called “consent.” How can this make anyone
feel powerful, in charge and excited? In the
original article on Rachel Kramer Bussell,
it stated, “You’re unlikely to do damage
to someone from a first time spanking.”
So what happens the next time? Hmmm...I
would be worried. Wouldn’t you?
Dory van Koolwijk, via email.
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