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I write to express my concerns about the
article ‘Bi For Now’(August LOTL) by Jacq
Kelly. Introduced as an investigation into
hasbianism, it had little to do with the topic,
was poorly researched, constructed and
argued. It is not until the final paragraph of
the two page spread we read that the writer
feels her “coming – and staying – out” has
been an “ordeal” and that the women she
has just driveled judgmentally on about for
two pages somehow contributed to, or are
responsible for, this. It is then we realise
we have not read an investigation, but
a self-indulgent whine. LOTL promotes
intolerance in printing such negativity,
stereotyping, and potentially stigmatising
writing based solely on friend of a friend
of mine account, personal opinions and a
little celebrity gossip. I would hope that
LOTL readership is diverse and interested
in each other’s differences as much as
broad similarities (current or past!) not the
ranting, individualistic, therapist-journal-
entry like notions shared by Jacq in her
‘investigation’. The article would have
been more appropriately headed “Bye, for
now”… It most certainly lost me!
Emily, via email.
Tracy Whitelaw (‘Guitar Gaydar ’, LOTL
August) is a sadly sheltered and uncultured
individual, if she only listens to guitar
strumming female singers. The music world
is vast, so vast that it defies description.
Get out of the house Tracy, or tune your
radio into a few new stations and discover
how amazing music can really
be! I feel personally affronted that Tracy
claims to speak for my taste, if not every
queer woman’s taste. I remember when I
first came out. Well meaning supportive
friends, both straight and queer, gave me
CDs of singing, guitar-strumming females
“because that’s what lesbians like”.
I listened to them. I listened to them
many times (they were gifts, after all).
I tried really hard to like them because
the queer press was telling me I should,
as a lesbian, adore these women. What
bullshit! Even more unbelievable is that so
little has changed since then. If the queer
media itself insists on perpetuating queer
stereotypes such as Tracy would have us
all be, then we are left collectively gagged.
As far as I’m concerned, there are only two
types of music, good and bad. Whatever
speaks to you is “good”; whatever doesn’t
speak to you is “bad”.
Sally Whitwell, Grad Dip Mus (Acc),
Bmus (Hons), via email.
Just wanted some feedback on this month’s
LOTL. In the events section you have
a piece about Sunday Groove at The
Hampshire and in it you mention Leah
Rushforth who has made it to the final 30
of Australian Idol. It would have been nice
to think that a bit more information about
Leah could have made your publication.
I think the Top 30 of Australian Idol is a
fantastic effort and it would be nice to see
the community get behind and support one
of their own.
Nadine, via email.
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LETTER OF THE MONTH
I was happy to read in your ‘Lesbian
Wedlock’ article (LOTL August) that there
is still support for marriage as a concept.
I am a bisexual woman who has been in
a primary relationship with a bisexual
male for 13 years; we never thought we
would marry, then about a year ago we
decided what the hell, marriage to us
was a public declaration of our love,
our demand that those around us truly
accept us as a ‘we’. Since then I have
encountered hostility from heterosexuals
for not having a ‘normal’ marriage and
even from some people in the gay and
lesbian community. The latter claim I now
have heterosexual privilege. I explain I
am not heterosexual, I haven’t accessed
any privileges and that I have experienced
discrimination from both ‘straights’ and
‘gays’ for my lifestyle choices. I have
written numerous government submissions
in support of gay marriage and feel that we
should be expanding our social rights, not
taking them away from whoever already
has them. I even went to an anti-marriage
seminar just to hear what it was all about;
ownership was the main problem, but I
know I can never be totally owned by my
partner and the part that is owned, well,
that part kinda likes it (besides I own as
much of my partner as vice versa)! So
if marriage suits you, go for it, declare
your love, don’t allow prejudice to get in
the way and in the meantime I will keep
campaigning for marriage rights for all.
Amanda H., Marrickville, NSW.
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