Home' LOTL : MarApril16 Contents happy you found your soul mate, Lip. When
we emceed San Francisco Pride, remember
who we got to introduce and hang out with
backstage? Margaret Cho, Gus Van Sant, Peter
Paige, and Gavin Newsom, the mayor who
defied federal law in 2004 and allowed same-
sex couples to marry.
Lipstick: He is such a badass! Remember
when the headliner, Charo, didn’t show?
Dipstick: How could I forget?
Lipstick: Beloved readers, you will never
understand the word “pressure” until you’re
standing in front of 200,000 people who
came to see Charo, but got you instead. “Go
entertain them for 10 minutes,” we were told.
This is when we learned a very important
lesson in public speaking: Have waaaaay more
material than you’ll need. I think I told a dirty
joke. Something about a winklebeener.
Dipstick: Thinking back, some of my best
memories were on the open sea, getting to
go on all those lesbian cruises with Sweet and
Olivia. Nothing beats being trapped on a boat
with 1,200 lesbians.
Lipstick: Unless you’re quarantined in your
stateroom, or sail into a hurricane.
Dipstick: Lip, I know you’re not a huge fan
of cruising, but this butch loves it. While you
were seasick in your cabin, I was learning to
boot-scoot across the deck, and launching
cannonballs in the pool with two hot
Lipstick: Didn’t you bring your twin sister on
that trip? Two Dipsticks. One boat. Oy vey!
The girls went crazy.
Dipstick: Yup, Mary and I calmed a nervous
Kate McKinnon, who thought the boat was
going to sink in those big Hurricane Rita
Lipstick: So cool to get to hang out with Kate
again before she broke out on Saturday Night
Live. Look at her now!
Dipstick: Remember when we first met her at
Dinah Shore in 2008? She was Julie Goldman’s
sidekick when we were interviewed for the
Lipstick: That was so fun, even though we
totally ended up on the cutting room floor.
They were like, “Now, who are Lipstick and
Dipstick: Indeed! But who cares, because I
got to meet Ilene Chaiken and the cast of The
L Word that same trip to Palm Springs.
Lipstick: You’re a stud, Dip! What will you
miss the most? For me, it’s the readers and
the relationships. We’ll miss working with you,
Tea m LOTL! And I guess I’ll miss the old butch.
Dipstick: I’ll miss the old femme, too.
Lipstick: D’awww—even though I fished for it.
One thing I won’t miss about Dipstick is how
she changes a flat tyre.
Dipstick: And I won’t miss having to stop at
the outlet malls on the road.
Lipstick: [Cheeky smile] Nothing will ever
compare to those early years. Right, Dip?
Dipstick: They were the best. So many times,
we were invited to San Francisco events,
traveled to gay prides, and formed enduring
friendships with the amazing women who
came and went at the magazine.
Lipstick: I’ll miss the laughter, too. It was
endless, especially when we’d do a photo
shoot with Maggie, our stellar photographer.
Dipstick: They’d go on for hours, but Mags
had great creative endurance and one helluva
sense of humor.
Lipstick: We couldn’t have done our column
Dipstick: And we learned so much.
Lipstick: So much. Looking back, as Lipstick,
I was much snarkier in the early years. In
the beginning, it was about entertainment
and getting a laugh. Somewhere along the
way, I realised that Lipstick was not just a
character I’d created, but a true extension
of myself. This— coupled with a few
heartbreaking emails we received—is when
the whole “advice columnist” thing morphed
into something else. At that point, I felt a
responsibility to help lesbians thrive and
manifest the life they want and deserve.
Dipstick: Here Lipstick goes with her New
Age speak again!
Lipstick: Zip it, Dip. You put on a tough Fonz
exterior, but you know it’s true. We started to
really care for the women who wrote in—they
sincerely needed advice, and we did our best
to help as many as we could.
Dipstick: OK, it’s true. For years, aside from
what was published in the magazine, we
answered every single letter we got, which
was in the thousands, believe it or not.
Lipstick: It was quite an undertaking, but so
rewarding—especially when we were able
to engage with the women behind some
tragic letters. Part of why Dipstick and I
worked so well together is because we are
so authentically different—not just on the
outside, but also in how we think, how we
were raised, even our gay journeys and how
we came out. It couldn’t have been a better
Dipstick: And, we weren’t each other’s type,
so that was a bonus. Contrary to urban dyke
legend, Lipstick and I have never been more
than just friends.
Lipstick: So, what’s next for us? I’m going to
finish my next novel—just wrapping up the
first draft now—and keep working on adapting
my first one, Jukebox, into a screenplay.
Currently, I’m on draft three. It will be a film
one day, but no wine until its time. Beyond
that, I’ll continue twisting the various creative
irons I’ve got in the fire, which are always
Dipstick: I’m going to continue writing for
About.com and try to take advantage of other
opportunities that present themselves, while
I seek out new adventures with an internet
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