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UNEASY ABOUT SON
QOur five-year-old son has suddenly started masturbating. It happens
quite often and has been embarrassing at times. Is this behaviour
normal? Is it a hormonal surge? -- Worried co-parent.
AIt is quite normal for young children, both boys and girls, to play with their
genitals. It's all part of the normal process of exploring and getting to
know their bodies - and it feels good! How much is too much is a
question you and your partner have to decide. Your son will be off to school
soon and is old enough to understand that some things are OK in private but
not in public. Keep the conversation low-key and unemotional.
Masturbation doesn't send you blind or give you hairy palms! It's also a good
time to talk to him about 'good touching' and 'bad touching' -- that it is not
OK for anyone else to touch his genitals, and if they do, he should tell you and
you will believe him. Talking to kids about sex is easy, really. Just answer
their questions as they come up with honesty and simple language. Less is
There shouldn't be any hormonal surge until the onset of puberty. Early puberty
is quite rare. Boys with this disorder will have accelerated bone and genital
growth with testicular enlargement and pubic hair growth. If your son has any
of these signs, see your doctor.
QRecently during sex I have urinated when I come. I get no warning
it's going to happen. I am 25 and have had the same partner for four
years. What's causing this and what can I do to prevent it? -- Moist.
ASome lucky women release an ejaculate when they orgasm. This is not
urine. It is usually clear and odourless and the amount varies quite a bit.
Sometimes there is a strong feeling of wanting to urinate before this
happens. It's thought to be produced by small glands around the urethra (the
tube draining the bladder to the outside) which correspond to the prostate
gland in men. It's most likely to happen if the G-spot is stimulated. This is a
small area in the front wall of the vagina and your partner is more likely to hit it
if she penetrates you from behind, fists you, or curls her fingers over the pubic
bone when entering from the front. Empty your bladder before sex.
If you think the fluid really is urine (yellowish and a bit smelly), there could
be a muscle weakness at the base of the bladder or a urinary tract infection
(UTI). UTIs are usually associated with burning pain and frequent urination,
but not always. A simple urine test will sort things out, so see your doctor if you
LOTL's health columnist is a lesbian GP on the NSW north coast. The
opinions expressed in this column are those of the author and are not
intended as a substitute for medical advice. If you have concerns about
your health please consult your health practitioner.
"Masturbation doesn't send you blind or
give you hairy palms! It's also a good time
to talk to him about 'good touching' and
'bad touching' -- that it is not OK for
anyone else to touch his genitals, and if
they do, he should tell you and you will
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